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12 March 2008

Letter from Tucker

Oklahoma Congressional Representative Sally Kern's recent remarks about LGBT people have generated international attention. Rep. Kern, a Republican, represents an Oklahoma City district, is a former teacher and is married to a Baptist preacher. She has not apologized for her hateful remarks, instead couching her comments as an exercise of her free speech rights and a dialog on issues. Sure.

Meanwhile, there is this comment from Elizabeth titled "A letter to Sally Kern from a senior in high school in Oklahoma" on page 112 of the comment section at Oklahoma City's Channel 9:

Today my nephew attempted to deliver a letter to Sally Kern but was stopped by a highway patrol man. With his permission I am distributing the letter to all news stations and thought I would include it here.

Maybe we can all stand to learn a listen from this smart, loving, young man. He more than most has reason to hate. He lost his mother, my sister, in the Murrah Building bombing.


This is Tucker's letter to Rep. Kern that the Highway Patrol prevented him from delivering:
Rep Kern:

On April 19, 1995, in Oklahoma City a terrorist detonated a bomb that killed my mother and 167 others. 19 children died that day. Had I not had the chicken pox that day, the body count would've likely have included one more. Over 800 other Oklahomans were injured that day and many of those still suffer through their permanent wounds.

That terrorist was neither a homosexual or was he involved in Islam. He was an extremist Christian forcing his views through a body count. He held his beliefs and made those who didn't live up to them pay with their lives.

As you were not a resident of Oklahoma on that day, it could be explained why you so carelessly chose words saying that the homosexual agenda is worst than terrorism. I can most certainly tell you through my own experience that is not true. I am sure there are many people in your voting district that laid a loved one to death after the terrorist attack on Oklahoma City. I kind of doubt you'll find one of them that will agree with you.

I was five years old when my mother died. I remember what a beautiful, wise, and remarkable woman she was. I miss her. Your harsh words and misguided beliefs brought me to tears, because you told me that my mother's killer was a better person than a group of people that are seeking safety and tolerance for themselves.

As someone left motherless and victimized by terrorists, I say to you very clearly you are absolutely wrong.

You represent a district in Oklahoma City and you very coldly express a lack of love, sympathy or understanding for what they've been through. Can I ask if you might have chosen wiser words were you a real Oklahoman that was here to share the suffering with Oklahoma City? Might your heart be a bit less cold had you been around to see the small bodies of children being pulled out of rubble and carried away by weeping firemen?

I've spent 12 years in Oklahoma public schools and never once have I had anyone try to force a gay agenda on me. I have seen, however, many gay students beat up and there's never a day in school that has went by when I haven't heard the word **** slung at someone. I've been called gay slurs many times and they hurt and I am not even gay so I can just imagine how a real gay person feels. You were a school teacher and you have seen those things too. How could you care so little about the suffering of some of your students?

Let me tell you the result of your words in my school. Every openly gay and suspected gay in the school were having to walk together Monday for protection. They looked scared. They've already experienced enough hate and now your words gave other students even more motivation to sneer at them and call them names. Afterall, you are a teacher and a lawmaker, many young people have taken your words to heart. That happens when you assume a role of responsibility in your community. I seriously think before this week ends that some kids here will be going home bruised and bloody because of what you said.

I wish you could've met my mom. Maybe she could've guided you in how a real Christian should be acting and speaking.

I have not had a mother for nearly 13 years now and wonder if there were fewer people like you around, people with more love and tolerance in their hearts instead of strife, if my mom would be here to watch me graduate from high school this spring. Now she won't be there. So I'll be packing my things and leaving Oklahoma to go to college elsewhere and one day be a writer and I have no intentions to ever return here. I have no doubt that people like you will incite crazy people to build more bombs and kill more people again. I don't want to be here for that. I just can't go through that again.

You may just see me as a kid, but let me try to teach you something. The old saying is sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt you. Well, your words hurt me. Your words disrespected the memory of my mom. Your words can cause others to pick up sticks and stones and hurt others.



  • On 3/13/2008 4:17 AM, Blogger UMLawGirl said…

    Wow. OK, I'm totally stealing this post. Everyone needs to read this young man's words.

  • On 3/13/2008 9:53 AM, OpenID oneloveonelight said…

    That is truly a beautiful letter. I hope she reads those words and her hard heart is softened.

    Kern has a gay son of her OWN! I wonder if her child even speaks to her anymore.

  • On 3/13/2008 2:03 PM, Blogger Hammer said…

    There is one thing I don't get about religous extremists that spew anti gay hatred.

    Jesus accepted everyone no matter what their status, lifestyle or whatever.

    How can these self righteous morons justify this kind of hatred?

  • On 3/13/2008 2:59 PM, OpenID oneloveonelight said…

    Exactly, Hammer.

    I’m no longer religious and am not a fan of most religions. But my view of Jesus (when I WAS somewhat religious waaaay back in the day) was that he was like John Lennon. Love everyone. Love all colors, shapes, sizes, differences, etc. Not act like a fucking neo-nazi like this cunt is doing.

  • On 3/13/2008 3:03 PM, Blogger Jami said…

    No, no - please don't hold back. How do you REALLY feel? :)

    It's not about religion with these bozos. It is about power and telling other people what to do. Jesus is just a convenient excuse.

  • On 3/13/2008 5:42 PM, Anonymous Cyndi Richards said…

    First off, glad you joined us over in the Circle, Jami. Y'all come back now, y'hear?

    Second, Tucker's letter was f*cking BRILLIANT!

    "Out of the mouths of babes", eh?

    He nailed Sally to a cross of her own making right out of the gate by pointing out that she was NOT even a resident of the state that pays her (probably) over-inflated salary long enough to have been of any REAL service after another disgruntled so-called "Christian" paid a visit to OK city.

    Chew on that, bee-yotch!

    Next, to the point made by "Lovelight", I offer the following article (the first of two) for your consideration.

    Read on.

    Sally Kern Scrubs Gay Son?

    http://www.queerty. com/sally- kern-scrubs- gay-son-20080312 /

    Uh-oh! Could foul-mouthed Sally Kern’s secret be out of the bag?

    The Oklahoma lawmaker’s homophobic remarks have been the talk of the town recently, especially her assertion that gay folk are infiltrating schools to indoctrinate children. And, sensing a critical national spotlight, Kern made a very suspicious change to her official government homepage.

    If you compare a March 4th cache and today’s version, you’ll notice that Kern and/or her staff deleted a biographical sentence mentioning her two adult sons, Jesse and Nathan. Obviously our warning bells went off, so we did a little digging and found something quite queer.

    Consider comment seventeen on this Tulsa World article:

    “How come no-one asks this “supposed” christian woman..about her own GAY son? The one she basically has dis-owned…ahh so christian.”
    What?! Kern and her Baptist preacher hubbie had a homo? And they disowned him?

    That’s some Alan Keyes shit…

    A little more digital detective work dug up numerous postings naming Jesse as the outcast offspring. One even recalls Jesse’s time at Oklahoma Baptist University, where he was apparently “the biggest queen on campus”:

    "I find it hilarious that Salacious Sally is such a bigot. Her son Jesse was the biggest queen on the campus of OBU in the mid-90’s. Twice he almost was expelled for making inappropriate advances in the library toilets. When he wasn’t cruising the toilets he was in the glee club and a piano major…there’s your sign."

    Another comment, punches holes through Kern’s religious extremism and suggests Jesse’s homosexuality pushed Sally Kern over the edge:
    Jesse Kern, Sally’s son, was raised in a strict Baptist environment. If your claims are true then you must blame her and her husband for his turning out that way. Most gays aren’t out there breaking the law and engaging in public sex acts and solicitation. Jesse chose criminal behavior to act out on his desires.

    "I see in this foolish woman much anger and resentment. Her beliefs are challenged within herself, because if she stands by them then she must accept her part in her son being a homosexual. She isn’t strong enough to do that. Instead, she has created a paranoid delusion that there is some vast conspiracy of gays infiltrating schools and governments to turn others gay and force their lifestyles on everyone. Her subconscious has created this great gay evil so she doesn’t have to blame herself and she says her son as a victim.

    Had the gays infiltrated Jesse’s school and indoctrinated him then? Funny, how he attended Baptist schools. His attendence [sic] at Oklahoma Baptist University was marred by his repeated censure for cruising the school’s toilets. Had he been able to live his life openly he would not have had to engage in such actions."


    Those are some allegations! And potentially disastrous for “family friendly” Kern. It also makes you wonder how Kern and her ilk sleep at night - and whether they understand the concept of “hell”.

  • On 3/13/2008 5:47 PM, Anonymous Cyndi Richards said…

    As promised, here's the follow-up to the sad story of Jesse Kern.

    “Answers” And More Questions In Very Queer Kern Case.

    Sally Kern’s ears must be on fire, because we just can’t stop talking about her!

    First came the Oklahoma lawmakers infamous rant and then we had that whole “first amendment” debate.

    The juiciest story of all came yesterday, when we looked into rumors that Kern and her husband, Dr. Steve Kern, had and hid a homo son, Jesse.

    Dr. Kern, who’s a Baptist preacher, issued a statement to squash those gay rumors - and perpetuate some others. It’s actually very clever:

    "Our son is not gay. We would still love him if he was, but that would not change the fact that homosexuality is a chosen life style and that we would pray for our son to have a change of heart. My heart goes out to the many parents who have lost sons to AIDs [sic] and other STDs. Those kinds of deaths are tragic because they could have been avoided."

    Ah, yes, we gay folk are simply crawling with infection!

    We practically are AIDS!

    Meanwhile, more internet chatter led us to the Oklahoma State Courts Network, a beautiful internet archive of the state’s criminal records. And guess what we found?! Three - count ‘em, three! - cases against a man named Jesse Jacob Kern, who may or may not be related to Sally and Steve Kern, who just happen to have a son named Jesse.

    The first Kern case involved some attempted oral sodomy and went down, so to speak, on March 27, 1989. That charge was dismissed by request of the state on June 9, 1989. What’s most interesting, however, is that this Mr. Kern just happened to be in court on that same day on a charge of trying to “obtain money by false pretenses,” whatever that means. Kern also stepped up to a driving under suspension charge. He was convicted of both on October 10, 1989.

    That must have been a hard year for this Jesse Jacob Kern - and his parents are definitely to blame!

  • On 3/15/2008 5:11 PM, Anonymous CBEntr said…

    FYI, I found this on a Michigan forum (?)...WOOD-TV Grand Rapids and Michigan, from the same Elizabeth, I suspect, since the city and state are automatically entered from your IP address once you post. I tried to send this direct to you Jami, but my email was declared spam by your account.

    From Elizabeth, Oklahoma City, OK

    Wednesday Mar 12
    I want to thank the kind words that you have given my nephew Tucker about his letter. I want to thank the person who published it on its own website at

    The letter is gaining national attention. Tucker was contacted by producers from the Ellen show wanting him to come on the show and read his letter in front of a national audience, since Kern has barred the delivery of the letter to her office. So please be watching for that

  • On 3/18/2008 7:43 AM, Blogger said…

    That was a beautiful letter. Unfortunately -- she won't read it -- and if she does -- she won't care.

    Ignorant bigots can't comprehend straight talk.

  • On 11/06/2009 5:17 PM, Blogger Adi said…

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